Rising in Love – A mature Relating
When you fall is love everything feels so exciting, so attractive and so real. Life is flowing and al is happening by itself.
But as time goes by and you get used to the other the shine disappears and a feeling of disappointment appears. You may feel not appreciated, not seen or not cared for anymore.
How to get love back in your life? How to have a respectful and supportive connection?
We all have learned that it is so important to love our parents, our brothers and sisters. When you care for your family and friends then you also will be supported and cared for in return.
But loving someone without knowing the love for yourself does not work. If you try to give the other, what you don’t have for yourself, all goes to nothing.
In this process we like to inspire you to come back to yourself first, to look inwards, to discover who you really are and what you truly feel.
Did you ever asked yourself:
– do I have the energy to care right now
– do I feel love at the moment for the other
– what do I need for myself now
– what are my boundaries
Here, we will shift our attention from desires, dreams and expectations to our own authentic energy, trusting and flowing with it from moment to moment. Sometimes there is energy to connect and to share. Sometimes it is better to be alone or to wait, because there is no energy to share.
“First be yourself, then you can relate”
First learn to feel and trust yourself, will be the primary focus in our exploration, becoming an individual, becoming the person you really are.
Only then, when you have found your individuality, your own nature, you are able to authentically meet the other, then you can relate. And this is not possible, without love. Let the love first flow towards your own beautiful self.
Then: Meeting and relating with the other as an individual brings a total new aspect into your life. It will give you freedom and dignity.
Out of your trust and respect for yourself, your love and the sense of freedom grows. Then you are able to share yourself and allow your partner to be him or herself. A mature and natural relating arises out of this.
Rising in love is something spiritual – falling in love is something biological.
Love should come out of your silence, awareness, meditativeness.
It is giving freedom to each other, more and more. As the love grows deeper, freedom becomes bigger. As the love grows deeper, you start accepting the person as he is.
Osho.
Amarga and Svabhavo are lovers and fellow travelers for nearly 30 years. In all these years they gathered a deep and profound understanding about relating, which they happily share with you in this workshop.